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School of Regulation and Relational Leadership
Book One: Navigating Triggers on the Path Toward Home
What if your triggers weren't signs that something is wrong with you—but invitations to return home to yourself?
In this foundational book, Shayla introduces a compassionate, practical approach to understanding the nervous system and transforming emotional reactivity into self-awareness, resilience, and authentic connection. Through accessible teachings, reflective practices, and embodied exercises, readers learn how to recognize their triggers, expand their capacity, and respond from grounded choice rather than automatic survival patterns.
Designed as a six-week guided journey, the book offers a structured daily framework that gently builds the skills of self-regulation, emotional literacy, ethical relating, and embodied leadership. Whether you move through it one day at a time or at your own pace, each lesson is designed to deepen your capacity to meet yourself and others with greater presence and wisdom.
Welcome home. Your nervous system has been waiting for you!
School of Regulation and Relational Leadership
Book Two: The Relational Field Guide
Regulating yourself is only the beginning. The deeper practice is learning to stay grounded in relationship.
The Relational Field Guide explores what happens when two or more nervous systems meet. Building on the foundation established in Navigating Triggers on the Path Toward Home, this book offers a practical roadmap for creating relationships rooted in safety, integrity, mutual respect, and authentic connection.
Through real-world examples, reflective practices, and practical tools, readers learn how to navigate conflict without abandoning themselves, communicate with clarity and compassion, set boundaries that preserve connection, offer repair after rupture, and cultivate relationships where every person can remain sovereign while deeply connected.
Rather than teaching rules for relationships, The Relational Field Guide teaches readers how to become conscious stewards of the relational field itself—creating spaces where trust, regulation, and belonging naturally emerge. Whether applied to intimate partnerships, families, friendships, workplaces, or communities, this book provides a framework for transforming relationships into places where everyone has the opportunity to flourish.
More than a guide to healthy relationships, The Relational Field Guide is an invitation to become the kind of person whose presence helps others feel safe enough to become more fully themselves.
Speaking Truth with Care
Truth has the power to heal—but only when it is offered with clarity, courage, and care.
In Speaking Truth with Care, Shayla explores the art of honest communication through the lens of nervous system regulation and relational integrity. Rather than avoiding difficult conversations or delivering truth as a weapon, readers learn how to communicate in ways that honor both themselves and the dignity of others.
Through practical frameworks, reflective exercises, and real-life examples, this book teaches how to recognize the difference between reaction and response, express needs and boundaries without blame, receive feedback without collapse, and navigate conflict with steadiness and compassion. Readers will also discover how timing, consent, and regulation shape whether truth creates connection or defensiveness.
Whether in intimate relationships, families, friendships, workplaces, or leadership roles, Speaking Truth with Care offers a path toward conversations that strengthen trust rather than erode it. It is an invitation to embody a kind of honesty that is both unwavering and deeply humane—where truth is no longer something to fear, but a gift that helps relationships become more authentic, resilient, and free.